A very good Monday morning to you all.
This week’s winner is Karin.
Karin, please email me your mailing addy and which book you’d like. The previous two winners have let me know they loved their cards. (Thanks you, Linda and Ellen Too.) We still have the kitty, a heart and both wine goblets to pick from, cardwise.
Cheers!
Deb
Linda Henderson,
Your name came up as first winner of a card and a book.
Congrats and thanks for reading!
Deb
PS: everyone who replies to any of my blogs this month will be entered in the drawings for the rest of the month!
I’d planned to write a moving tribute to every mom today, but then I remembered–I’m a mom. This is my day to sit back, relax and do nothing. 
So, I will keep this simple.
To my daughter (in the photo above), my daughter-in-law, my sister and sisters-in-law, my nieces, friends and all the amazing women who touch the lives of children in a positive, loving way, give yourself a pat on the back. Keep up the good work–the future is counting on us.
But, I would like to recognize one very special mom: Diane Appelman. Last year, Diane contributed to my friend Brenda Novak’s online auction to raise money for Juvenile Diabetes Research by bidding on my “Your Name in My Next Book” auction item.  She wrote me a lovely, moving letter explaining that she wanted me to use her late son’s Stephen’s name because “He would have gotten a kick out of it.”  Stephen was a special needs child, who because of his mother’s love and devotion, grew up to lead a rich, full life despite certain health challenges that claimed his life at age 30.  Diane’s love and pride made this young man come to life for me, and I was honored to change my  hero’s younger brother’s name to “Stephen” in this month’s release, UNTIL HE MET RACHEL. Stephen’s story enriched my hero’s life and, I hope, gave my story more depth and humanity.
BTW, I celebrated an early Mother’s Day yesterday at the Tuolumne River Trust fundraiser in Groveland, CA, with both of my children, my beautiful daughter-in-law and all three of my most-amazing granddaughters. Life is good.
Be happy!
Deb
I completed the revisions on my 27th book at midnight Sunday. The manuscript was due on my editor’s desk the next morning. Thank heavens for e-mail, right? But, I am not a last-minute, thrill-of-the-crunch-time, adrenalin junkie. Not even close. So what went wrong this time, with this book?
The book’s title is THE GOOD PROVIDER and will be out this fall. But I’m calling it my P.T.S.D. book. (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder). I wrote it immediately after my sister’s death. Immediately after my grueling summer of watching her die. Not only was on contract with a committed deadline, I told myself work was my escape. I liked thinking I was finally in a place where I had some say in the outcome of someone’s life. In this case, my hero and heroine. That well-promised HEA called to me.
BUT, what I didn’t fully take into account was where my head and heart was in the grieving process. I’ve worked through sad times before. I figured this would be no different. But it was.
My wonderful editor didn’t come right out and say, “What the hell were you thinking?” She’s far too kind, but I could hear her exasperation in the imbedded comments of her revision notes. The problem stemmed from the obvious disconnect I’d created between the story and the characters. They were/are interesting, complex people with great heart and intensity; yet, I’d reduced them to actors on stage, sleepwalking through their roles.
In hindsight, I’m not surprised. I’d created that same disconnect across the board in my life–family, friends, online communites. I think that’s not untypical of PTSD. In hindsight, I probably should have “stepped away from my manuscript” until the fog lifted.
Well, guess what? The fog’s gone, now, let me tell you. Nothing like a few 14-hr days chained to your chair to whip you into shape. LOL.
The good news is: I, now, like this book again. I feel as though I finally know Daria and William. I picture them shaking their heads at me. Working with a sleepwalking writer  must have been frustrating for them, too. 
So…the book is done. It’s soooo much better. And I’m headed to town for a massage. Yippee!!! Â I really, really need one.
Now, to offset this dry, reflective, totally writer-stuff topic, here’s a picture of  my father-in-law, Milt, who is visiting from South Dakota. He’s 86. I told him he’s famous, now. (Just play along, okay?)
Milt and friend
Have a great week, everyone.
Deb
The Wine, Women and Words Book Club met on Sunday to discuss A Short History of Women. Shhh. Don’t tell anyone, but we’ve been known to spend most of the time talking about everything EXCEPT the book. But this time, we retired to the living room after our meal to actually discuss the book. A testiment, I think, to the author and the story. We mostly agreed that the book’s set-up (hop-skip-and-jumping between decades) was “challenging”, but the quality of the writing and meat of the story really drew us in once we got into it.
As I mentioned in my reply to Barbs’ post last week, I found myself thinking about my grandmother and my mother a lot as I was reading this book. They were shaped by the society they lived in but they also helped to shape changes that still effect my life today. WW&W-member Carol, felt the same way. Although none of us could claim a sufferagette grandmother who starved herself to death for her cause (or was that her real motivation? I’m on the fence.), we had lots to say about the strength of our female ancestors and their lasting legacy.
Any standout female figures in your family history you’d like to brag about? I’m all ears.
Our next month’s read is Carol’s choice and she decided on COMMITTED by Elizabeth Gilbert. 
May is my choice, and we will be reading THE GARGOYLE by Andrew Davidson 
AND, of course, MY May book, UNTIL HE MET RACHEL. 
Two wounded heroes. Vastly different stories. <VBG>
Now, about the title of this blog: turns out we unintentionally wound up with a food theme that had nothing to do with the book. Several of us contributed dishes that included garbonzo beans. I made falafel patties ala Jon Paul (my son). He did the smushing, mixing and seasoning, bless his heart, so all I had to do was shape and fry–like hamburgers, only meatless. DE-LISH. (Recipe below.) Heather brought a power soup that she insisted on calling “Gruel”. It, too, contained the bean of choice. Martha’s salad may have had a bean or two in it. But the culinary surprise of the evening was…wait for it…Flourless Chocolate Garbonzo Bean Cake.
For real. And it was a hit. (Thank you, Ruth.) See recipe below.
Happy reading, all. See you next week. I am bogged down in revisions–send me your good writing vibes. I need them.
Deb
RECIPES:
FALAFEL PATTIES ala Jon Paul
2-3 cans garbonzo beans, drained and rinsed
1/2 cup shredded carrot
1/2 cup minced parsley
1/4 cup finely minced green onion with tops
1/4 cup Blue Oak Ayurveda “Shake It Up” seasoning mix
Directions: smash beans, add other ingredients, form into patties and fry in HOT pan using a fair amount of canola oil. Serve with fresh salsa for a fun twist.
GARBONZO BEAN CAKE ala Ruth
9″ round cake pan        40 minutes @ 350-degrees
1 1/2 C. semi-sweet chocolate chips
1 can garbonzos, drain and rinse
4 eggs
3/4 C. sugar
1/2 tsp. baking powder
1 T. confectioners sugar (optional)
Directions: grease and flour pan. Melt chocolate chips. Combine beans and eggs in food processor, add sugar and baking powder. Add chocolate. Pulse to blend. Transfer to pan. Cool in pan on dry rack for 10-15 minutes, then insert on serving plate and top with powdered sugar.
Stumbled across this thought-provoking blog on FaceBook and thought I’d share. http://harlequinblog.com/2010/03/the-harlequin-blog-celebrates-national-womens-month/
I particularly like what the author of the blog says about strong heroines. The book I’m currently revising features a woman coming out of an abusive relationship. What drew me to Daria was the strength it took to stand up to the many people in her life who felt that what she had (a lovely home, two beautiful kids in private school, a nice car, etc.) more than made up for the fact her husband regarded her as a possession. My heroine is strong, but there will be those, I’m sure, who wonder why she didn’t leave sooner. Why did she stay with him and have two kids? Valid questions, but, as in life, there are no simple, pat answers. She struggled with and continues to struggle with her sense of identity and establishing her independence and her right to live a happy, fulfilled and engaged life, rather than standing in the shadow of her husband’s success.
Interestingly, this topic also dovertails nicely with the book the Wine, Women and Words Book Club is discussing on Sunday. 
A SHORT HISTORY OF WOMEN by Kate Walbert  is not a placid,  easy read. I found it challenging but worth the effort. A word of advice if you pick this up: keep one finger on the family tree index. (I was very confused by all the Dorothy characters.) What I found most interesting was how the advances in women rights, beginning with suffrage, affected the generations of women in this one family.
Also, I’m in the mood to give away prizes today–in celebration of National Women’s Day. Post-it notes–who can live without Post-its?!?–will go out to the first three posters.
Have a great week, everyone.
Deb
manly decor, no?
Our guest house didn’t start out as a Man Cave. It morphed from a shop, to an art studio, to a bachelor pad for our son, to a studio apartment, to a cottage, and, now, it’s changed again.
You gotta love a space that is that flexible. You could learn from a space like that. You could take to heart that nothing is written in stone and every change leads to new possibilities.
The reason this lesson is important to me is that I’m currently working on my revisions for my December book. This is my 27th book, so I’m pretty familiar with revisions, but each book is different. And each time I get the “fix this” call from my editor, I have to remind myself of one simple thing: revising will make it better; over-revising will make you crazy and it won’t help the story.
Kinda like the man cave. No new walls, windows or rooms; instead, we went for the nuances that give it personality and theme. A few fishing poles, lures (or instruments of death, as my hubby calls them), lots of remote controls and a couple of leather recliners.
So, I’m off to “revisionland” – an island of small, significant change in the heart of Debland. But I’m looking forward to hangin’ with the boys at the Man Cave once my revisions are done.
Have a great week!
Deb
A happy smile to start your day!
I realize I’m a bit late in starting a New Year’s Resolution, but it’s still February. Right? Well, this is me playing catch-up with my life. Nothing new, I assure you. But routine is a good thing, I’m told, so I’m embarking on a new one–a weekly blog. (Hence the “Tuesdays in DebLand” title.) I thought I’d start you out with a happy smile. My youngest granddaughter never fails to make me smile.
As some of you know, I lost my mom and my sister in quick succession (May ‘08 and Aug ‘09, respectively). This double whammy has made the process of grieving doubly intense and really cut into my normal online socialization. But I’m feeling more positive and focused every day and I hope to make these blogs positive, too. The focus will tend toward writing, since that’s what I do.
So, here’s your first piece of insider news: my next book is titled THE GOOD PROVIDER (Nov OR Dec 2010). This is William’s story. He’s the agent who shows up in a couple of stories, including “Finding Their Son.” Here’s a scene from that book that made me certain I needed to write his story.
“Hi, Char, it’s me, Eli. I miss you. I’m pretty sure my life is never gonig to be right without you. Marry me?”
He stuffed the phone back into his pocket. What kind of jerk proposed on the phone–while he still legally married?
He let out a loud sound of disgust and fell backward in the sand. He kept his eye closed for two reasons: the sun and his eyes were starting to water. From some previously undiagnosed allergy. Or a sudden onset cold. Not tears. God, no. He refused to cry in public.
He was so wrapped up in fighting off his impending embarrassment he almost missed the conversation coming from a few feet behind him–until he realized he was the focus of it.
“Wow, Shane. How’d you do that? Point your finger, pull the trigger and he topples over. That was awesome.”
“Why are you looking at me? It could have been William. He was using an imaginary bow and arrow.”
“That’s what you use on dragons.”
The last speaker had an English accent.
“It couldn’t have been us. Any projectile–even an imaginary one–would have made him fall forward because we were shooting from behind.”
Eli opened his eyes. They really were talking about him.
“Then why’d he fall over? Maybe he’s on drugs again.”
Again?
“He’s pissed.”
“How could he be pissed? We haven’t even told him who we are or why we’re here.”
“Pissed is Brit for drunk.”
“Why can’t they talk right?”
“They? You mean me, and I’m standing right here. With an imaginary bow and arrow that I’m going to shove u–”
A bit naughty, but I loved his droll, dry humor. Can’t wait for you to meet him in his own book.
Okay. Enough for today. I’m working on a new story–the first book of twins, which is also the second to last book in this series. (Confused, yet?)
Oh, and my bookclub is reading a very unusual book that has me both intrigued and annoyed. The title is: A Short History of Women. More of that when the Wine, Women and Words bookclub meets. Soon. I promise. Another resolution pending implementation…but it’s still February, right?
Have a great rest of the week! See you next Tuesday.
Deb
Thank you for your patience…the bookclub will be returning very soon!
The Wine, Women and Words Book Club met last night to discuss my May Superromance, PICTURE-PERFECT MOM and New York Times’ bestseller, The Shack. The heroes of both books were named Mac. That’s about it for common bonds, but both garnered a lot of talk. All thumbs up for Picture-Perfect Mom, I’m happy to say. Mixed reviews for The Shack. Since my mother used to warn me never to discuss religion or politics at a party, this book made for an interesting discussion.
photoHere we are happily enjoying our early summer evening on the patio, dining on strawberries and whipped cream. As Donna (second from the left) says, “Life is short, eat dessert first.”
We were sipping wine and munching on fried tofu and grilled veggies when the first of the vampire invaders arrived. About the time we finished the main part of our meal, they brought reinforcements. Mosquitoes. To reference The Shack, we cried, “Papa! What were You thinking?”
Deb
PICTURE-PERFECT MOM – 4.5 stars!
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