National Women’s Day

Stumbled across this thought-provoking blog on FaceBook and thought I’d share. http://harlequinblog.com/2010/03/the-harlequin-blog-celebrates-national-womens-month/

I particularly like what the author of the blog says about strong heroines. The book I’m currently revising features a woman coming out of an abusive relationship. What drew me to Daria was the strength it took to stand up to the many people in her life who felt that what she had (a lovely home, two beautiful kids in private school, a nice car, etc.) more than made up for the fact her husband regarded her as a possession. My heroine is strong, but there will be those, I’m sure, who wonder why she didn’t leave sooner. Why did she stay with him and have two kids? Valid questions, but, as in life, there are no simple, pat answers. She struggled with and continues to struggle with her sense of identity and establishing her independence and her right to live a happy, fulfilled and engaged life, rather than standing in the shadow of her husband’s success.

Interestingly, this topic also dovertails nicely with the book the Wine, Women and Words Book Club is discussing on Sunday. A SHORT HISTORY OF WOMEN by Kate Walbert  is not a placid,  easy read. I found it challenging but worth the effort. A word of advice if you pick this up: keep one finger on the family tree index. (I was very confused by all the Dorothy characters.) What I found most interesting was how the advances in women rights, beginning with suffrage, affected the generations of women in this one family.

Also, I’m in the mood to give away prizes today–in celebration of National Women’s Day. Post-it notes–who can live without Post-its?!?–will go out to the first three posters.

Have a great week, everyone.

Deb

7 Replies to “National Women’s Day”

  1. I can’t live without post it notes…I use them almost as much as I use keenex (except not for the same thing).

  2. oops hit submit before I finished what I wanted to say cause I had to get up and check on the color of stain the painter is using on the doors to my new laundry/storage room. I like reading books about women who are able to recover from an abusive situation and do something with their lives…even fall in love again. Maybe I like them because I had a friend whose life was changed when she finally got up the nerve to leave an abusive situation.

  3. Go women! I must admit I was a ‘welcome mat’ to my ex. He was the one with the sense of humor and there didn’t seem to be room for both of us. It took the divorce for me to find my ‘true’ self and let the funny in me be seen by the world.
    I have also learned that when someone says “you look nice in that, but…” isn’t meant as a compliment, it’s a way for them to have power over you.
    So yeah, congrats to all the women who are able to stand up for yourself. It doesn’t matter how long it took you to be able to do it, all that matters is you did.

  4. Two of my favorite people. You’re going to like these little post-its. They’re fun and frivolous to offset this serious topic.

    Thanks for to you both for your thoughts on the subject. Marcie, you are so right about those backhanded compliments. I’m going to remember that when I’m in Daria’s point of view. Those slights might not seem big at the time, but they’re cumulative in power. She was able to overlook a lot because she thought she was doing the right thing. But, if not’s healthy, it’s not right.

    Thumbs up for your friend, too, Ellen. It takes a lot of nerve to make that break. I hope she’s a lot happier in her life, now. And, me, too–with regards to the post-it notes. Love, love, love them. So when I stumbled across these really cute and fun ones, I thought they’d make great web prizes and wouldn’t cost an arm and a leg to mail. Let me see if I can find both your snail mail addies before I ask you to send them again.

    Thanks for reading and mucho thanks for reinforcing my gut take on Daria’s situation.

    Deb

  5. here it is Thursday and I’m finally getting to this–life has been a little hectic at this time. Women still have so far to go but we’re getting there I’d like to think my granddaughters will be strong about men LOL we all have some learning to do! I just couldn’t get into SHORT HISTORY OF WOMEN I don’t think I got what the message is.

  6. Hi, Barbs! How nice to “see” you! Thanks for posting.

    Ack! I know what you mean about not getting into this book. I’m certain I would have drop-kicked it into the next room if it weren’t a book club read. I will say as I got into I found the storyline that the individual blurbs (the author hop-skips around through generations) didn’t make clear. I stayed with it because it made me think about what my grandmother went through and my mother. For instance, my grandmother patently refused to tell anyone who she voted for in any election. My grandfather would bully her about voting a straight ticket, but she took this responsibility very seriously. I can see why after reading this book. Women died for this (although, honestly, I’m no convinced that’s why the first Dorothy of this book stopped eating). I am looking forward to our book club’s discussion.

    So, Miss Barbs, I just sent Marcie and Ellen their post-its. You will be getting some, too. I will email you to make sure I have the right addy. Have a great weekend.

    See you Tuesday.

    Deb

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